25 Years of Marriage Tips
Last year, my husband and I celebrated 25 years of marriage together. We went all out for it too. By that I mean we went to Olive Garden for dinner. No, I’m kidding. I couldn’t resist.
Back to my point. We got married at 19 and 22 years of age and so there was a lot of learning to do along the way. I will admit that this list does not include everything I have learned, but it’s a decent start and it includes a few of the most important lessons for me. I’m not going to expand on this list with lots of examples, because it would probably be a book at that point. Hmmm. That’s an idea to table for later. 🙂
My tips really need no explanation or examples. They are pretty self-explanatory. So here goes…
Marriage Tip #1
I am not perfect so perfection should not be expected from my husband.
Marriage Tip #2
Living out intentional forgiveness is a must, every single day.
Marriage Tip #3
Just because I am passionate about something, doesn’t mean my husband has to be passionate about it also in order to support me.
Marriage Tip #4
It’s okay to disagree about some things.
Marriage Tip #5
The thing that communicates my love for my husband may be different than what I think communicates love to him.
Marriage Tip #6
My husband does not have to apologize to me in order for me to choose forgiveness. However, if he does apologize, I should be gracious in my acceptance of the apology and him.
Marriage Tip #7
There is so much more value than I ever realized in having a husband that has the same foundational faith beliefs that I have. I absolutely can not imagine going through some of the experiences we have without that foundation. When I am weak, he is strong and vice versa.
Marriage Tip #8
It’s okay to be flexible in relationship roles when life changes.
Marriage Tip #9
Just because my husband does things differently, doesn’t mean he does them wrong.
Marriage Tip #10
My husband and I communicates very differently.
Marriage Tip #11
My relationship with God has to come first in my priority list, and my husband is an intentional second to that. This does not mean that I don’t love my kids and don’t take care of them. Of course, I do. They are all my blessings, whom I love and cherish dearly.
Marriage Tip #12
I have to be intentional in my positive thoughts about myself, my husband, and my marriage. Yep. Daily affirmations is a must for me.
Marriage Tip #13
I am responsible for what I contribute in my marriage, good and bad. When I have wronged my husband I should willingly admit and apologize. It’s not always his fault when something goes wrong.
Marriage Tip #14
I am responsible for my desire and ability to give my husband my full 100% effort.
Marriage Tip #15
Weddings are beautiful. New cars are awesome. So is being debt-free. Common goals are important to keep us focused in our finances.
Marriage Tip #16
I should have taken more pictures of the 2 of us after the kids were born.
Marriage Tip #17
Monthly date nights (at a minimum) are a non-negotiable.
Marriage Tip #18
Love notes are still affirming 25 years later.
Marriage Tip #19
Treat your spouse better than strangers.
Marriage Tip #20
Pray for your spouse and with your spouse daily.
Marriage Tip #21
Travel together without kids sometimes.
Marriage Tip #22
Have daily random chats in whatever way possible.
Marriage Tip #23
Intimacy is more important than you will ever truly understand. It requires me to be intentional in my own actions, and not just wait on him to make all the plans. If you are interested in this, then I have an Intimacy Challenge to Transform Your Marriage that you will want to read!
Marriage Tip #24
Stop blaming each other. You are both at fault somewhere along the way and you are on the same team.
Marriage Tip #25
You are teaching your kids what marriage is supposed to look like.
That sums that up!
No matter where you are in your marriage journey, whether you are just beginning or have 50 years under your belt, I think it’s wonderful that we can all learn from each other. Share what you have learned in the comments. I want to know!
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